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Reach Beyond the Break

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In life, each of us have times we feel like we’re barely holding on. We feel like we’re at our wits end, and regardless of what we do nothing seems to change a situation. However, I want to encourage you today to reach beyond the break. Life happens to each of us. Things don’t always go as planned. Tragedy strikes! Finances change! People turn on us, and let us down. But even in the mist of feeling at our lowest point where we’re about to break, we must realize that things have to get better. We were built to endure. Life happens to make us stronger. Life happens in order to teach us, and grow us.

So regardless of what is going on in your life right now, reach into your innermost being and find strength to reach beyond the point you feel like breaking. Get your mind right! Shake yourself! Dance a bit! Scream! Cry! Pray! Now get up, dream again, and get moving! Someone is counting on you! Someone finds their strength in you, and you don’t even know it. Hold on with everything you have because a better day is coming!

 

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Don’t Live Life on Stand-by

So many times people live their lives watching to see what will happen in someone else’s life. They base their decisions on what someone thinks about them. Yet all the while they desire to do somethin else. So they live their life standin by not what they believe but by what someone else thinks, wants or desires for their life to be. This is living a life in bondage because it’s not living the life you were created and designed to live.

There are many people who feel I should not do what I do. They feel I’m out of order, going against what they bible has declared. Yet, there is an anointing on my life and a preacher that lives in me. For me not to preach, teach and prophesy is equivalent to me denying that there is a God. In the same manner, I’m just as anointed to write and I have an ear for music. Not to pursue my dreams and be afraid what people think equally denies that God is at work. It also causes me to live standing by to what someone else thinks.

We must not wait for someone to tell us that we’re great! We must already believe that we’re great! We must not live our lives bases on the opinion of others but what’s innate for us to do. To live life on stand-by is living a life of regrets. It’s a life of shoulda, coulda, woulda! So take the limits off and reach for the unreached. Obtaining the which seems impossible to obtain. Know that you’re a force to be reckoned with and will no longer  just stand by & watch life  happen around you!

The Cries of my Bleeding Heart

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There have been times where I felt like my heart was crying. Maybe from a broken heart due to the lost of someone I loved. Perhaps it was because someone I expected more of was caught in the thicket of doing wrong when they know to do right. Other times it’s due to the broken state of America and the Christian body.  I’ve felt my heart bleed because it had been pierced by pride from some ego driven man that tells me he needs me, he can feel my love for him or me unintentionally pulling on his spirit but doesn’t want me because my breast and butt are too small and maybe my waistline was too big. Yet they’re minister of the gospel who at the same time will say it’s whatever God say while being driven by their flesh. Yet last night for the first time I found my heart crying and bleeding. So many that name the name of God and declare they’ve been changed are caught in a cycle of sin yet they have declared to be righteous.

I’ve seen ministries that are breathed by satan himself yet they claim to be in the will of God and serving Him. Yet my Bible tells me that if any man (human) be in Christ He is a new creature. Old things (the sin nature) are passed away and behold all things are new. It also states that if any man be in Christ he sinneth (on purpose continues to sin) not. For sin separates us from God! For these reasons my heart cries and bleeds for the body that they will wake up, fear God, and live the life of holiness we were commissioned to live.

I made a promise to God over 20 years ago that I would not compromise Him word. I told Him that I would preach the truth even when people didn’t want to hear it. I’ve been determined to dispel myths and expose lies so that the truth will be revealed and God be lifted up! The world needs our prayers.

A note from my heart…..

Dr. Mindy

I Met Jezebel

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Earlier this year I met Jezebel. A week later he asked me to be his girlfriend. While I was flattered and even intrigued by his charm I told him without hesitation that wasn’t possible. I saw the selfishness which is the root of pride, arrogance, manipulation & control. I told him he needed to get over himself, be healed and that I needed time to see who he was. A person can tell you anything. Time reveals who they are.

So we talked a few weeks (off & on about 5 weeks) and I realized he was trying to manipulate me with his charm and was frustrated when he saw that didn’t work saying “I don’t know how to pursue a woman like you.” What he was really saying was by now I would have already slept with another woman & can’t figure out why you not falling for my tricks. Truth is, life has made me wise. I’ve seen so many things when it comes to men that I see past the flattery words. I know my worth & I value myself.  Although I do desire companionship & a family I’m not willing to have a man at any cost. Men tell me all the time they’re surprised I’m single. My response is always: It’s not that I don’t have men interested in me. I’m just not interested in investing my time in those that have approached me.

We as single women have got to value ourselves enough to not grab hold of whatever comes our way. I’d rather remain uncommitted and happy then committed and stressed with the life being sucked out of me.

Until Next Time…..

Dr. Mindy

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Stand Your Ground


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We live in a world with fwb and people “talk” and date instead of commit.  Probably birth out of the fear of being alone and not having anyone so you take what you can get. On the other hand, no one likes to be rejected so to spare you the shame and possible humiliation you choose to “go with the flow” instead of expressing your feelings and have an understanding of the situation instead of assuming. I know for a fact that assuming in most cases lead to getting your feelings hurt.

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In order to get answers and spare your feelings you have to put self aside and stand your ground! If something bothers you say it! If something makes you smile let them know. If you’re feeling them and you know they’re feeling you don’t walk around clueless. Take a stand and say “let’s talk, what are we doing here?” Many times people have different expectations yet they don’t express them and end up frustrated, hurt and sometimes crying. Like I’ve said many time before communication is the key to any healthy relationship.

With a clear understanding of expectations and what the other person is looking for you save a lot of time and heartache if that person is not looking for the same thing or not able to provide what you need. For example, my desire is to meet a man where we value the same things and desire the same things in life. With that, not only do I have expectations but I have non-negotiables also. One of my expectations is if he’s trying to be my man is for him to be unattached and opened and honest with me. That’s not too much to ask. One of my non-negotiables is a man who does drugs. It doesn’t matter how fine he is, or how much money he has. If he does drugs I don’t need to know anything else about him.

You see, so many are afraid of being alone and lust has been mistaken for love that instead of sticking to our standards we relax them for whatever reason and often find out that we shouldn’t have. Love shouldn’t be a dreadful chore it should come with ease and be a delight.

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Until Next Time……

Dr. Mindy

To Love or Lust

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Unfortunately we live in a world driven by lust in our eyes instead of love in our hearts. The youth of today think fashion and beauty is wearing skin tight revealing clothes when it’s actually sending a message they may not intend to send. Seems likes everything is sexually based and love, real love has become pre-historic; however, it does still exist.

I often think of children and how their love is pure. They know when someone loves them just like you know when a child loves you. My nephews, Godchildren, and adopted nieces and nephews all know I love them from our interactions. I greet them with excitement, hugs and smiles. I care, nurture and share my food (that’s real love) with them. Spending time with them is delightful and warms my heart! In the same sense, the bond between those seeking a relationship with each other should be genuine and although I don’t be love is a feel just the word used to describe an experience there are feelings that come with the choice to love. Love is an action word, not an emotion like happiness, or being sad. Emotions change and when love is truly a factor it doesn’t change like the wind. I could be mad at someone, hurt or disappointed. It doesn’t change the fact that I love them.

Yet we live in a selfish world of instant gratification where most people aren’t taught how to have a relationship with people let alone be in a relationship with someone. As a result we are in a constant battle. A battle of the sexes, a battle of the Christians who practice abstinence and the Christians who see no problem with sex outside of marriage. There’s a battle of what is beauty and what it is not which leads to the battle of low self-esteem and a host of other things. However, if people would become less selfish and more selfless (giving instead of receiving) relationships on every level would be happier, healthier and more fulfilling. You have to know not only know your worth but be patient enough to learn and appreciate someone else’s.

 

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Guilty as Charged

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I know some of you are reading this simply because you want to know what I’m guilty of. Well, just like you I’m human. However, I don’t make excuses for my wrongdoings while screaming “Don’t judge me! Only God can judge me.” The truth of the matter is the people that harp on this stopped reading at Matthew 7:1 and don’t have an understanding of the things Jesus is saying in the chapter.

Nonetheless, I’m guilty! I owe a debt I cannot pay. I’ve thought some things I shouldn’t have, said and done some things. However, my heart’s desire is to please my Heavenly Father. So I make a conscience effort to live a life pleasing to Him and when I fall short – repent of that sin. Which means to turn away from it. Not do it over again as so many people do.

Not only am I guilty of being human and making mistakes; I’m guilty of not being bullied by the adversary of my soul and exposing him. So many people just go with the flow. So many are afraid to tell people the truth of God’s word and to get themselves together. I’m guilty of challenging people’s beliefs, challenging false doctrine and challenging people to think differently then they always have. Expanding your mind and understanding only helps you out in the long run.

I’m guilty of standing up for what I believe. Trusting in God and His word as the final authority. Lastly, I’m guilty for not following the crowd, what’s normal to some people and dancing to the beat of my own drum.

However, Jesus went to the cross for me and anything people want to accuse me of or anything wrong I’ve done His blood was shed and the final verdict was CASE DISMISSED!!!!

We serve a faithful and just God! So many times I’ve wondered and asked the question “Who wouldn’t want to serve a God like this?

Today I Can

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I woke up this morning frustrated. I had argued with someone in my sleep and the thing that got me was they questioned my character. The conclusion was drawn not based in who I am but the history they have with someone else. The reality is people do this to us in life all the time. They use their past experiences and assume the future ones will be the same. However, what they don’t realize is in order to get a different result THEY must do something differently.

So I decided to get my mind, get out of bed and start my grind for today. Although it was “just a dream” the truth is different situations will cause people to act differently even if they know within their heart they’re wrong people rather blame someone else instead of taking responsibility.

I made a decision and that decision is TODAY I CAN! Despite the situation around me, despite who says what, despite how I feel, and despite what I see with my natural eyes. Today I Can because I’m able to do whatever I set my mind to do because Christ gives me strength to do it. In fact, God is a partner is my labor and nothing else matters as long and the Father, Son & Holy Ghost are working on my behalf.

I know so many people have the Monday blues. However, each day is precious and time can never be relived. Choose to put your hurt feelings and poor excuses to the side and declare TODAY I CAN!!!!

 

Dr. Mindy

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The Price of the Anointing

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So many people look at me, what I’ve accomplished and the titles I hold and draw conclusions about me based on those factors without getting to know me for who I am.  YES, I have a PhD; YES, I’m an ordained pastor; YES, I’m anointed and that anointing comes with a price. However, there’s one thing that many fail to remember – that I’M HUMAN!!!! Just like you! The only difference is how I choose to live my life.

I remember the day I got saved like it was yesterday although it was 24 years ago. Regardless of what people think of me good or bad – I’m not perfect. However, since the day I got saved I have been committed to my Christian walk and since the day I was called 21 years ago I have been committed to the call and anointing on my life.  I love God so much and it is my responsibility to safeguard that which God has entrusted in me. Yes, this anointing is costly.

No, I don’t have a story of God delivering me from drugs, sex, and alcohol. In fact, He spared me from getting caught up in those cycles. However, drinking is not the sin, the sin is in being drunk and for all your inquiring minds on rare occasions I might have a glass of wine. I remember being a teenager and a pastor telling me that I didn’t belong in the world and if I ever tried to fit in it wouldn’t work. Truth is, I’ve never been the one to go with the crowd whether the one trying to impact the crowd. That’s the price of the anointing.

The anointing comes with a sacrifice. That sacrifice first comes with laying self aside. Not forgetting about myself but putting others first because I have an assignment and those assigned to my hands need me to be in place and ready when our paths cross so that I can effectively minister to them what God put in me to deposit in them. The cost of the anointing means I gave up my freedom to do what I wanted to do. I realized at an early age that it wasn’t about me and I was called with a holy calling that requires me to surrender to will to God for my life. The anointing leads me to meet many people from all walks of life all over the world. Yet those I hold closest to my heart are few for I know and the Savior knows that they will help me to protect the gift in me, build me up and pray for me. The cost of the anointing means walking this journey with many along the path but only a few that actually walk it out with me.

There’s a lot of things I’ve never done, many experiences of life I was able to escape. At the same time, just like you, I’m human and life happens. I’m an emotional being who feels the hurt of my loved ones when they hurt. I have my own emotions that I deal with and although it may be a surprise to you I get mad and sometimes my blood boils from being so upset. Yet the anointing causes me to evaluate my emotions and not be/act in my feelings. See I realized that there are people looking at me and watching me whose name I may never know and face I will never see. YET God in His divine wisdom saw fit to connect us somehow. For that reason, I’m careful about what I do, careful about what I say and no matter where I am or what I’m doing I reflect Jesus Christ. No, I’m perfect. Sometimes I miss the mark. However, the anointing on my life is real. I don’t take it for granted. I respect myself, the call and the anointing to fulfill the call. So you may not understand why I do what I do or the decisions I make. To be honest with you, sometimes I don’t either. Yet, I know that God is with me. Leading me, guiding me, directing me and teaching me His ways.

So I gladly lay down myself, pick up my cross, and march forward all for the sake of Jesus Christ. The anointing is costly. In fact, it cost me my life. A life yielded to Christ. One where I’m transparent and not afraid to admit my wrongs or repent to the God of my salvation. I’m so grateful that He’s faithful and just to forgive me of my sins and that when He called me that calling was holy and He has positioned me in the Kingdom as He see fit.

Forever Favored,

Dr. Mindy

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Mic Check, 1-2!!! What Happened to Love?

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I’m unsure if anyone else feels the way I do at this very moment. In fact, the way I feel is hard to explain. However, I’m not going to attempt to  but perhaps you can understand with this question that keeps reoccurring. “Will you marry me” has definitely lost it’s meaning which means people don’t value marriage like they use to. I’ve been asked that question in the last 18 months more then I can remember to count. What does that say? Well, I’m sure some of you are probably thinking I must have been in several relationships & that’s how the question arose. That would be false. In fact, I wasn’t in a relationship with any of these men. Some I had just met and others  I don’t even know their names. I’ve had men ask me to marry them while walking down the street. I’ve had men ask me to marry them because they love the sound of my voice, I had a man ask me to marry him at Wendy’s recently. Don’t get me wrong. I’d love to be asked that question by a man I love with the very essence of my soul & can’t imagine living without. However, I just can’t help but wonder what happened to love?

Once upon a time men where gentlemen and loved instead lusted. They knew their role as a man & was a provider instead of a leach. I’m not saying all men are like this. I’m simply saying, love today is not what it use to be.  Hidden agendas, secret families and identities makes it difficult at times to fall for the true person because you’ve met the custom version. In those cases it robs the individual from making the choice of taking a chance on what you have to offer or going the other way because they know won’t work. What happened to the time when love was just love?

To answer my own question, so many people are selfish so what they are looking for is not happiness in sharing their life with someone else but “I need someone to fill this void.” At times it’s pride that stands in the way of allowing nature to take it’s course. Other times it comes so quickly instead of embracing it – it slips away. Then there’s a lack of transparency and false expectations that leads to heartbreak, disappointment and sometimes shame. However, true love is not impossible although it may not come when you want it rather when you least expect it.

Love, life and happiness is what you make it to be. It’s deciding what you can deal with and who you can’t live without. Love is about sacrifice, selflessness, honesty, openness and enjoying one another. We can help who we fall for because they pull on our heart strings. It’s up to us to treasure them and cease the moment once we do.

Dr. Mindy A. Butler