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Life is NOT About You

I believe that we are were created on purpose with a purpose regardless of how we got here. I believe that regardless of what that purpose is it entails impacting others and making a different. God created us to work with people and not independent of one another always looking to see how life & other people can benefit your own agenda. When your motive is pure then you will be more productive & have a greater sense of accomplishment.

I know “Life Happens” all the time. I know sometimes things don’t go as planned or work out like you would like for them to work. However, instead of getting frustrated with your vision and stop supporting others evaluate what is taking place or what took place and see how it can become better. Many times people are looking for a solution to improve and you may be the very one who has the answer. However, because you are so caught up in your own world, agenda and impure motives you become less productive and rob  yourself of making in impact in someone else’s life.

As you prepare to enter into 2014 make it a point to make a difference. The littlest thing to you can be the greatest thing to someone else.  Let’s end the year in harmony & start next year being selfless and ready to make a different in someone’s life.

 

Happy Holidays and many blessings!

Dr. Mindy

Pizza in the Park Outreach

Pizza in the Park Outreach

 

Pizza in the Park Outreach

Pizza in the Park Outreach

Depressed?

There are so many people that suffer from depression. They often talk of not wanting to get out of bed. That’s part of the problem. Sometimes your mood changes simply when you get up & start moving around. I know this to be true as many times I’m frustrated or not feeling well in my body & WANT to just lay in the bed. However, VISION gets me up. If fact, vision is what keeps me awake at times and going when it looks like things don’t change regardless of what I do.

I can’t say that I’ve ever been depressed. I do get frustrated often though for various reasons. However, in 2005 a couple months after my mom was murdered I was on the campus of WSSU in a computer lab. I was sitting there and suddenly I literally felt depression trying to attach itself to me. I immediately begin to tell myself that I was not going to be depressed. I begin to apply positive self talk & as quickly as I felt it come I felt it leave.

There are some things I don’t understand fully because I have never experienced it fully. However, I do know depression is a state of mind like frustration, unhappiness, sadness, etc. This season is known as the darkest night & and even though so many people feel they have no one to go to if you carefully examine your surroundings I’m sure you’ll find there’s someone there. Someone you can talk to, someone who believes in you, someone who will be there to listen or just lean their shoulder for you to cry on. We have so much to be thankful for when we open our eyes. So choose to be happy. Choose to put a smile on your face & know that you are somebody & loved by so many!

Get Up & Do Something

I’ve seen several times and I’ve heard people say that many battles are won on your knees. However, I disagree. In every battle that has ever been fought from the being of time to today there was/is someone giving commands and providing instructions for those that are fighting. Even in God’s word there were physical battles fought. Not a single war regardless of it’s nature was fought or won without taking action.

 

It is in prayer that we receive instructions on what to do and say. How we should proceed. Faith is far beyond just believing so in order to win any battle I’ve got to do more then just pray. Show me your faith without works I’ll show you my faith by my works! Check the wars in the bible, the war of 1812, the civil war, the gulf war, the war on drugs, the war on homelessness, the war on poverty the all require and show some sort of action.

 

Psalm 144:1-2 states “Blessed be the LORD, my rock, Who trains my hands for war, And my fingers for battle; My lovingkindness and my fortress, My stronghold and my deliverer; My shield and He in whom I take refuge; Who subdues my people under me.” If there were no action required to win the battle then the Lord Himself would not provide training. In fact, the word declares that the Lord is a man of war Exodus 15:3.

 

So I want to urge you to get up off your knees, stop crying, and truly walk by faith. What has God commanded you to do while you were in prayer? Get up & do something about it!!!

I Finished My Course

MEHAY

It was about a month after I graduated with my BA in Business Administration when I preached the message “Keep the Dream Alive.” I was talking about Jacob and encouraging the graduates to reach for their goals. In that message I stated that within 10 years I would have my PhD. In what I didn’t know. It took me 5 years before I started working on my Masters; however, 8 years later I have obtained a PhD in Ministry.

 

Firstly, I’d like to thank God for being with me through this journey. There were some frustrating times and times I felt like giving up but I was determined to finish the journey I started and it was definitely God’s grace and wisdom that brought me to where I am. Secondly, I’d like to thank my mom. She was my biggest cheerleader. She was murdered a little over a month before I graduated from undergrad yet she was so proud of me. She always introduced me to her friends as a pastor even before I was ordained as she saw the call on my life. Mom told me once I should be a doctor. She meant medical doctor but when I looked at the process I wasn’t interested in going to school all those years and deal with some of the things they deal with. Yet, because she believed in me I kept my course and although I was burned out and tired of school after my Masters I pressed for the PhD. Thirdly, I’d like to think all those that truly believed in me and who celebrate these moments of achievement with me.  Lastly, I’d like to thank Chrisette Michele for making great music. Many nights I was up writing papers listening to her, getting revelations on my life and finding motivation that gave me the energy I needed to meet that midnight or 7am deadline.  Indeed she’s one of the greatest artists or our time and can sing the heck out of anything. She’s creative and classy! Grateful I got to meet her in person recently after the many tweets over the years 🙂 . Oh, I also want to thank Mrs. Darla Church. A teacher I had in high school. I’ve always been smart but  after taking the college Biology class in high school I wasn’t sure I’d do well in college. However, she encouraged me to go & assured me I’d be fine. Here I am 13 years later with a PhD. I could have been a medical doctor right?!?!? LOL

This journey I’m on is full of surprises and I’m enjoying the ride. Getting my PhD is far from the end of the story! Great things are to come so stay tuned and watch what God is going to do through me!

 

Dr. Mindy A Butler

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My Thoughts on Better – Chrisette Michele’s New Album


Listening Party 6/10/2013

Listening Party 6/10/2013

When I started listening to the CD I started with the “In My Bed – Sleeping Alone” intro. I was curious what it was about because I spent my first & last winter in NYC cold & many nights wishing I had some body heat. Those of you that’s heard the CD knows Chrisette is talking about her experience during a break up in the intro. However, listening to “Get Through The Night” the first time I felt it was more metaphoric. The word night is symbolic of a dark place in one’s life & not always a time period during a day that is simply dark. So if one is simply waiting to get through the night they know when morning comes it’s going to be a “brighter day.” Morning doesn’t actually come when its bright outside but at 12:00:01am which is basically midnight. Midnight is a point of transition from darkness to dawn which is early morning. It’s the time you actually see the darkness leave & the day light come. That’s why morning is symbolic of a breaking forth. So the words “When I finally rise I will stand tall….morning won’t be like the night time. Can’t wait til sunshine. Can’t wait to my eyes open again. I know I’ll smile in the daytime” to me is saying if I can just get through this dark moment” /transition period I know that “tomorrow” (a new beginning) is going to be BETTER! We all go those times in our life. I just recently came out of a night season but I’m much better now & I’m definitely smiling again.

Months before “Better” was released Chrisette talked about how she was better, had been healed, etc. No doubt she’s a musical genius & the message in the music is different then before. As a writer myself, I know some compositions are directly or indirectly speaking about one’s life. So just as she stated this album reflects her being in a different place. When I purchased “Let Freedom Reign” I purchased the other two albums around the same time. It was then that I noticed the tone of the album matched they style of her hair. For example, when “I Am” was released Chrisette had long & flowing hair. That album has a soft tone. The way the Chrisette’s hair is now is simple an expression of her being free to express herself however she feels. Again, this is reflected in “Better” and was foretold in her song “If Nobody Sang Along.” “Would I take the time to write it? Would I say what’s on my mind? If nobody sang along?” Then she goes on to say “Maybe I need to just say what I want to say. Maybe I should tell my story. Maybe I should sing my song…….if I’d only write it and just say what’s on my mind. I’ll be all over your TV screen….. If I say what’s inside of me I might set somebody if I just be me.” I don’t watch TV (nothing deep, just prefer music & my laptop) but she’s definitely all over my news feed on Facebook! Lol

I first listened to Better as I was preparing to go to a meeting. So many thoughts went through my mind off lines I wanted to tweet but told myself I would be late for my meeting if I started expressing how much I liked the album or if I replayed another song. So I decided to blog. I’ve already said a lot so I’ll pull out my favorite lines another time. However, I’ll comment on the other two tracks that spoke to me & had my soul screaming, “Yes, that’s it! That’s how I feel.”

The first one is “Supa.” I definitely know what it’s like to feel like I have “An S on my chest.” However, just like Chrisette expressed in the song that although “I’m extraordinary” sometimes I just want chill & I need a man who will love me just the same in my sweats & T-Shirt as he will when I’m doing my thing. In fact, maybe 2 years ago I started praying for Chrisette to find a man that would love her for who she is & not “Who she is.” (one of which I emailed myself 🙂 ) Meaning, that he loves her the person she is – not who she has become. Although, we love who we are in the public eye, but at the end of the day after the day, after the interviews, autographs, and everything else comes with who we’ve become there must be a balance and he appreciates who we are &  not just in “Visual Love.”

The last song I believe is my favorite. I can’t get it off my mind because it captures how I feel at the moment. That is “You Mean That Much To Me.” This song is so deep and intimate. We all know that “Some people search high & low. For someone to make them whole. (because I’ve never met another man like D) So I’m not letting go. Cause you mean that much to me. Take all this love from me……here is my offering. (deep line.) Cause you mean that much to me. I’ll be your refuge be your sanctuary….” I’m done! Caught up in another world called love and “I’m not asking for much just “A Couple of Forevers.”

I love Chrisette. Her energy, her spirit, the fact that she puts God at the for-front in all that she does. “Better” is definitely Chrisette showing out and taking it to another level. I’m looking forward to whatever she has coming next & she definitely has my support.

Dr. Mindy A. Butler                                                                                                                       @drmabutler – Twitter                                                                                      bookings@mindyabutler.com

 

Three People in Life

This Morning as I was thinking it occurred to me that there are 3 types of people in our lives. Most people have heard that people are in our lives for a reason, season, or lifetime. I actually hate cliches and jumping on the wagon with everyone else. God gave us a brain to think for ourselves. Which is an entirely different topic. I get so tired of Christians using the excuse of “Whatever God’s will is!” Like I said, that’s a different topic and I’ll address it another time.
The first person in our life is a “place holder”. They are present in our lives holding the place of what’s to come. They’re good to hang out with and show you what you need or maybe what’s been missing. They resemble the missing piece, but they are not the missing piece.
Then you have the “Taking up space” person in your life. These people generally get on your nerves, you argue a lot, can’t get along and vex your spirit. They are trying to fill a role they were never meant to fill. That’s what there is an imbalance and no peace. Take a deep breath and give them to boot. You’ll fill lighter and happier.
Last, there is the embedded person. These people are in your life for life. They are there when you need them to be. It is always a joy when you see each other are talk. These are the people that are a phone call away.
Some take a moment and look over the people in your life. When they are in the proper place things will be and feel different for you.

Love Hurts

I’ve been wanting to address this topic for a while. Since I’m wide awake at 4:45 a.m. (5/5/12) I thought it would be a good time to write. Many people wonder why Love Hurts. Many people make the statement that if someone loves you they wouldn’t hurt you. Here’s the real truth. If love was not a factor- hurt would never be a result. Most      of the time the person that hurt you didn’t do it intentionally. The reality of the matter is it hurts because of your expectations or the way you view something. Meaning they  let you down or they didn’t do something that you expected or they told you the truth you wasn’t ready to accept it. Here’s another thing to consider, God places people in our life not only for growth and development but also to show us who we really are. Friends, family and love ones are like mirrors and when they have your best interest at heart they will tell somethings we don’t want to hear. They will tell us things not to hurt us but to better us. When these things happen we should not react in emotions but  rather in spirit. If they are incorrect it will rub our spirit the wrong way. It will alarm us something just ain’t right. But when they are correct peace or even conviction is the feeling we experience.  Most of this time people are not hurt by your actions that hurt by your words. Even if actions where a factor, words of some sort preceded the actions that led to the hurt. So why does love hurt?   If this person loves me then they show me who I am not because they’re mean, not because they’re upset but so I can be better. See God will bring those people to build us up, to revive us , to show us things differently, and to restore what has been lost. Yes God is the ultimate healer, the ultimate Redeemer, the ultimate deliverer; however, God uses people to cause these things to take place in life. God uses people to show His love toward us. He uses people as His instruments to add to your life. There is not one couple I can think of who didn’t have a fight, who never argued, who never disagreed; marriage isn’t perfect – relationships of any kind isn’t perfect. However, with God being foundation they were able to stand the test of time. Relationships and marriages are what the two people involved make them to be. Take time to access the situation before you start to cry and be held a prisoner in your own mind because someone hurt you!

What Happened to the Body?

Often times I shake my head at the foolishness of man. However, the state of the church makes me sad, shake my head and wonder how can one say that they love God and a follower of Christ when their actions say otherwise?
 
I was listening to Steve Harvey this morning and again this thought came to me. If “the church” actually took time to look beyond it’s members, beyond it’s walls, beyond it’s agenda and got with the program of God – reaching all nations; they would be more impactful. It’s not about going overseas or being the largest church around, or known for having the best shouters, or dancers or the best praise team. It’s about reaching people where they are, giving them a message of hope, and helping them get connected and staying connected to the Father.
 
So many times the church is criticizing our brothers and sisters in Christ who have secular jobs (artists, radio hosts, actors/actresses, athletes, etc) yet they are doing what many of you say you want to do but not doing. They are simple reaching the masses through using the gifts and talents God has given them. Just because you don’t SEE them in the church, and they are in the lime light does not mean the devil is exploiting them. It does not mean they are not using their ability for the glory of God. It doesn’t mean that they are not seeking God for direction and their next move.
 
To be honest, I have no words for the state of the church other then they need to get their mind right. Too many are focusing on the minor while the major things are going unattended.  So many Christians are quick to say they don’t listen to secular music yet they watch secular tv. So many can not wait to tune-in to Scandal which could very well have the same effect as music. I am careful about what I listen to – as long as my spirit is at peace, I’m good. I’m not a tv watcher not because it’s demonic, but because I don’t have time to waste watching things that don’t propel me forward. I’d rather be working on a project and listening to music. Yet the body of Christ somewhere got things twisted and got away from the original plan God had for man. To have relationship with Him. Clearly all of our relationships are going to look different because we each are made up of a different experience.
 
Our brothers and sisters in Christ who are working a secular job just like many of you & have made a name for themselves are putting the “church folk” to shame. The church is busy judging and they are busy healing. The church is busy tearing people down and they are busy mending wounds. The church is complaining about not reaching this generation but they are reaching them. What Happened to the Body? The church needs to take self inventory and really get with what God is doing.  

The Seed Within

lemon-seedsAs I was drinking my morning cup of lemon water I realized there were a number of seeds in the bottom of the cup. Not only that but there were small pieces floating in the water. It was then that I was reminded that everything has a seed within it to reproduce itself. Every fruit, every vegetable, every animal, every living organism, every person and yes every church!

It is the law of nature that God set up for everything to have the ability to reproduce. Yet, so many times the seed is wasted. Maybe it’s lying dormant as a seed can’t be planted until it surfaces and becomes exposed somehow. Perhaps your seed isn’t producing anything because it hasn’t been planted and if it has maybe the soil doesn’t have the proper nurturance to cause germination that cause reproduction. Maybe your seed is part of the third group which my lemon seeds fall in. I’m just going to throw them away.

So many times we as people and the church just throw away the seeds we have instead of planting them and causing them to grow. My dreams will never become a reality if all I do is “dream.” Everyone that ever accomplished anything wasn’t because they were doing nothing – they took action. Yes, sometimes things “just happen” because we are at the right place at the right time. How did we get there? It’s not because we stayed in the comfort of our homes or spent hours upon hours praying. We went to a place, met someone, took a different route, shared our goals, did some research, created a plan and submitted it to God. It may SEEM to have come from nowhere – but the truth is some type of planting took place. Ultimately is started in your mind. The law of attraction or as the stated in the Word “As he thinketh in his heart, so is he” Prov. 23:7a.

Seeds are for reproduction. Anytime that is not happening something is wrong! Maybe the seeds are being wasted or the ground is not fertile. Whatever the reason, it needs to be examined so that you can produce the harvest you were created to produce!

 

Mindy A. Butler

Becoming W.E.I.R.D. Excerpt

The Snake in the Grass

snake

This morning as I was getting dressed the thought came to me to beware of the snake in the grass. The snake is an deceptive animal as we see in Genesis.  There are people that will come into your life seemingly being what you desire or who you need to connect with. The reality is that a snake is subtle and just as quickly as it appears it will disappear. Normally a snake has its own agenda and regardless what you say or how you respond to “it” there mission is what’s on their mind.

Many times people get caught up in the beauty of a thing neglecting the reality of what it posses. A snake is poison and sometimes deadly. Yet instead of being wise as it is as we have been command you choose to fall prey to it. It is then that its attack is launched and it squeezes the life out you it. You really should pay attention to the company you keep. A snake provides warning in its hiss yet you want to think it’s funny, cute or a game. Then you end up devastated wondering what happened.  Pay attention to the red flags. Pay attention to the details. RUN!!!!